Author: Nana
I just got engaged with my lotmnige gf and I am freaking out! I cant sleep and I have hardly been eating. I have been reading a bunch of posts online to help try and make sense of all these feelings. I thought this article makes a lot of sense and thought I would give a male perspective.It is 2011 and I wanted to shake up many things in my life. I felt that taking the next step to engagement would force me/us to deal with what ever it is we need to deal with and hopefully allow our relationship to grow because it needs to to stay healthy. So far this has been completely true, everything has come rearing up as Sheryl had mentioned. As freaked out as I am this is a transitional period that needs to be confronted.At the same time I entered this with my focus entirely on us, but as soon as the news hit our families it started getting out of hand. Engagement parties and all the questions about dates and that put me over the edge. I really had to man up to take this step, but I am not ready to set a date and I have talked to her about that. There are a lot of hard questions we still need to ask. All our expectations and wants need to be explored.I am not rushing into this process even though we have been dating for a while. I love her too much to compromise her/our happiness.The media has been prepping and selling you girls for the ideal wedding experience for a long time. After seeing what my Brother went through with his wedding, I was amazed by the industry of it all. To be honest that gets in the way of everything it should represent and it gets passed off as a right of passage in our current society. Good luck everyone finding there way through this life of ours,stay true to your heart
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